day six
Jaded beauty. Has the world's definition of beauty ever jaded you?
the answer is yes. a million times. i think that it is pretty obvious to the world that most of the time i am not comfortable in my own skin. i never think that i look nice. i constantly compare myself to other people around me and constantly feel like i am never enough. a few years ago it was way worse than it is today. i was always surrounding myself with magazines and celebritys. i dreamed of looking like an olsen twin. ( i know thats pretty ridiculous, but it is so true.) i wanted to be skinny, and blonde, and have wavy (not curly) hair. i wanted to be able to wear whatever sytle of clothes that i wanted. i wanted to look "perfect". i didnt think that my eyes were the right size or color. i thought i had terrible hair.
and for most of my life, i have stuggled with accepting my curves and my body type. like really struggled.
the world'd definition of beauty has jaded me very much. after we got married, my husband chalenged me to stop reading magazines and careing about celebirites. he challenged me to stop focussing so much on what i wanted to look like, and start thanking the LORD for who i am. i am telling you, after struggling with body image for basically my entire life, that this did not change how i feel. it did not make me feel any better. it has only been since the birth of my daughter that i am coming to realize that my body was not created to be in a magazine. i was made to only have a "perfect" body to my husband and my little girl. i am not healed. i am not fixed. i still spend tears on the fact that those jeans do not fit me yet. but through the grace of the LORD, i am learning and growing. i know with his help i will someday beat this and know that the world does not define beauty correctly. until then i am determind to not be jaded by what the people of the world think, becuase there is no way i want my daughter to grow up and think that they are right. i was looking through all these photos of from the past 3 years, and i have realized that while i might not think that i am beautiful all the time, i can see that the transformation from girl to woman to wife to mama is something so beautiful and the world can not take that away from me. no matter how hard they try. 
xoxo,
a
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THE LIST:
Day 1. What does beauty mean to you?
Day 2. What makes you uniquely you?
Day 3. Who is someone you know who inspires beauty?
Day 4. Style 31. Post a pic of you in your favorite outfit.
Day 5. Write a blog thanking someone who has made your heart come alive.
Day 6. Jaded beauty. Has the world's definition of beauty ever jaded you?
Day 7. Write a blog to encourage another beautiful woman.
Day 8. Have a beauty secret (e.g. hair tip, make up tip)? Share, please!
Day 9. What virtues do you value in yourself?
Day 11. Post a recipe. Or if you don't cook, try a new recipe and write about how it turned out (pictures please!).
Day 12. Write about what wears you out as a woman.
Day 13. Write about something you would like to change about yourself for the better.
Day 14. Style 31. Post an outfit pic!
Day 15. Write to encourage a friend. Inspire her beauty.
Day 16. Write a letter to your daughter, or a young girl in your life. Tell her what beauty means.
Day 17. Write about 3 things that make you happy.
Day 18. Describe your personality.
Day 19. Write about your favorite comfort food (we are women- we ALL have comfort food!)
Day 20. Write about your job and why you love it or hate it.
Day 21. Write a letter to your husband to encourage him (or if you are single- your future husband.)
Day 22. What are some needs that need to be met in your community? Blog about how to extend your hand to those who need you.
Day 23. What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses?
Day 24. What is Jesus teaching you presently?
Day 25. Style 31. Post a pic of your favorite comfy clothes.
Day 26. What do you hope your grandchildren will say about you someday when you are gone?
Day 27. Write a blog to encourage someone and build their confidence!
Day 28. Write about your insecurities as a woman.
Day 29. Write about "a day in the life of me." (Pics are great!)
Day 30. Who is your role model as a woman?
Day 31. Write about your dreams and goals as a beautiful woman!
Day 7. Write a blog to encourage another beautiful woman.
Day 8. Have a beauty secret (e.g. hair tip, make up tip)? Share, please!
Day 9. What virtues do you value in yourself?
Day 11. Post a recipe. Or if you don't cook, try a new recipe and write about how it turned out (pictures please!).
Day 12. Write about what wears you out as a woman.
Day 13. Write about something you would like to change about yourself for the better.
Day 14. Style 31. Post an outfit pic!
Day 15. Write to encourage a friend. Inspire her beauty.
Day 16. Write a letter to your daughter, or a young girl in your life. Tell her what beauty means.
Day 17. Write about 3 things that make you happy.
Day 18. Describe your personality.
Day 19. Write about your favorite comfort food (we are women- we ALL have comfort food!)
Day 20. Write about your job and why you love it or hate it.
Day 21. Write a letter to your husband to encourage him (or if you are single- your future husband.)
Day 22. What are some needs that need to be met in your community? Blog about how to extend your hand to those who need you.
Day 23. What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses?
Day 24. What is Jesus teaching you presently?
Day 25. Style 31. Post a pic of your favorite comfy clothes.
Day 26. What do you hope your grandchildren will say about you someday when you are gone?
Day 27. Write a blog to encourage someone and build their confidence!
Day 28. Write about your insecurities as a woman.
Day 29. Write about "a day in the life of me." (Pics are great!)
Day 30. Who is your role model as a woman?
Day 31. Write about your dreams and goals as a beautiful woman!
oh my goodness, Ally, if only we could see through God's eyes and not America's. The longer you are a mama, the more you will see God's version on beauty around you. Believe me when I say, after 25 years of mama experience, you, are a beautiful and rare treasure. I not only think you are outwardly beautiful but you are inwardly beautiful. You have a spirit that desires to serve and love your husband and daughter, you desire to learn from God all that you need, I am sure you make your own mama so very proud. God's highest calling for you is to be a mama. He has given you all you need for the job. America has so warped our girls with the pictures and movie stars, etc. Many of those pix aren't even real images after photo shop etc. God's focus is on family. You're on your way there already : ) You are a wonderful example to little maggie girl. You are darling to me and I love you dearly. Keep looking to Jesus. Scone
ReplyDeleteYOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL!!!! I Love you so much. Thanks for being so real. You are an amazing friend, mama, and wife.
ReplyDeletethe picture of you by the railing smiling... is so stunning.
I relate so much. More then you can believe. Every word rings so true of my life. I used to just punch my hips and my tummy in hopes that it would make them go away lol. Every night I tell Sam that I wish I was beautiful, and he tells me I am, and I never believe him. I know how you feel. You sound like you are making better strides in the reality of who God has made you then me though.
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